Divorce???

Manual Burtis: Get rid of the white foods in your new diet. White foods are nothing but empty calories AND sugars/carbs. Stick with whole grain pasta, rice, and breads.Congrats on your weight loss. Keep it up.People who sabotage another do it as a form of control. This control you don't need in your life.

Oscar Wieland: http://www.state.wv.us/wvsca/Divorce/index.htm **** Go here and print then fill out all of these forms, and take them to the Judaical Court. You will have to pay to file them but at least you wont have to pay for the packet and you have time to fill them out.

Melina Minneweather: i have no idea u should have never got married if if u were going to get a divorce because then u spent all that money on a wedding now u r about to spend all that money getting a divorce

Mitchell Pickens: Disgustingly eat it or prepare it yourself. Her cooking skills is one of those things you should've known prior to marriage. ☺

Sharolyn Claybourn: ! i think you should keep going on with your diet and stay healthy. if he is insecure he needs to learn to deal with it. after all this time that he has been with you he should know that your not going to go leave him for someone else. he should talk it out with you and try to change if he wants everything to work out between you too. its better to be healthy then have health problems.

Elmo Tervo: Gawd, buy him a lazy-boy he has earned it, give him Sundays off to watch football or nascar whatever and bring him lots of spicy chicken wings and ice cold beers.After the game/race is over have wild hot monkey sex with him.Problem solved....Show more

Shaunta Paap: You literally drove this man into becoming a wimp or a wuss and now you're complaining about the results of your handiwork. Grow up, lady, before it's too late to save your marriage.

Jacques Vaquera: He has noticed you new figure and congrats on your weight loss! Your hubby should be proud! Not only is! weight loss good for your looks and good for your health too.! you keep up the good work and he will stop buying those bad foods when you keep throwing them in the trash!

Dewey Heersink: I don't understand why you feel this way. You won. He tried to please you and it's not good enough.Poor sod, he just can't catch a break.

James Langmyer: What... she poos on the bench before chopping onions?

Erin Arron: This is kinda long, but read before u answer please =)My husband is always trying to sabotage my next diet by offering favorite "bad" foods that he knows I love but am trying to cut out, limit or eat in moderation..I have lost 30lbs recently and we were separated 4 weeks during the majority of the weight loss, so getting back together he could really feel the difference.Anyway, he has been commenting a lot on how attractive I look, my curves, my new shape, how I feel "smoother", just nice little things that are new to him because he hasn't felt me in so long, but it makes me feel bad because I want to look this way a! ll the time, but he is constantly trying to get me to go for comfort food or something that he knows will mess up my diet.and my diet isn't even a diet so much as a new way of living, I eat mostly seeds, nuts, fish/meat, cheese but occasionally (1-3) times per week eat what I call (an old meal) like a plate of white spaghetti with white garlic bread, or a steak stuffed burrito from T.B. yum yum yum, lol. I'm a big cakes and pasta person so I guess I reward myself with whatever I want and don't modify it for health.He has even admitted to "trying to make me fat" because then other men wont think I'm as attractive, but then he is included in that =( he would think me less attractive physically as well...So I don't get it, wouldnt you rather have a hot, energetic wife who turns heads, over a frumpy, tired, self conscious, unhealthy wife?He makes me feel good with the comments, I know he likes when I'm thin, I like when I'm thin, so how can I stop his behavior? We are doing the! rapy and learning about behaviors and how to stop them, so any suggesti! ons on what this is and why or how to stop it?He too has lost weight, 20lbs. but I want him to look good, feel good and be healthy. I have always physically been attracted to him ...mentally not so much at times. but I have always tried to help him maintain his health and good looks, he has always seen it as negative comments or conversations. I tell him when he gains weight because I want him to be aware, he does not tell me and I want him to, it isn't a trick question. He allowed me to gain about 70lbs in a years time, I always asked if I was gaining (we never kept a scale around) he even had me thinking the dryer was shrinking my clothes lol! Bottom line is, he didn't MAKE me gain any weight, I did that, but I know he wants me to stay heavy because then I'm less attractive to other people, how do I get him to stop thinking like this? He is only attracted to thinner women so this is frustrating that he encourages me to eat yummy unhealthy food!!! Arghh! I do have my own g! ravitational pull, people are naturally drawn to me and it has nothing to do with looks, that's part of his insecurity. I'm instantly likable in person and people seek me out, but I can't help that. It's not like I like any of those people back, he is the only one for me, 12 yrs together has taught me that much!! so what do I do?Be fat and unhealthy and unattractive to my husband but make him feel secure?ORBe thinner, healthier, more energetic, and more appealing to my husband but make him insecure?We're in our late 20's early 30's...Show more

Frank Gazaway: He wants you fatter to satisfy his own insecurities. Healthy is better. Let him get over his problem.

Emeline Albracht: Obedient? is that the word you really want to use to describe this?Anyway, no one likes someone that is constantly kissing their butts, it's just human nature.But this is mostly your doing.You have whipped him, and his spirit is now broken. So now he is your little yes man.He feels he is ju! st being considerate and doing the things you told him and trained him ! to do to make you happy.Now your not attracted anymore.He can't win.I'm sorry, but I have been married for 22 years, and I will be damned if I "do as I'm told".I will do as I please.That doesn't mean I'm not considerate to my wife, but I won't be bossed around.You need to take a look at how you have approached all this in the past.Give the man his balls back....Show more

Dorine Nurre: Talk to her mother.

Bo Perham: You have to get an attorney to file for you. No fault divorces are usually the least expensive.

Son Ahlers: I am not quite sure how one disgustingly prepares something - I assume that you mean she prepares food you don't enjoy. Surely you knew this before marrying her? Yet you still made that choice.Clearly you need to make some efforts in that direction yourself; take it in turns to cook, take her out to eat, etc. Go to cookery classes together. Tell her what you enjoy and what you don't....Show more

Lyndon Mattas: My husband and I have b! een married for six years. I love him very much. He used to be very sloppy and leave a mess for me to clean up around the house. He was not much good at housework either. We had a lot of talks about it and he has learned to clean up after himself and he is good about it. Sometimes he even cleans up after me and my friends like after our book club meeting. My problem is that he seems sort of weak now, like he is less interesting overall. He is less attractive to me now than he used to be and I feel part of it comes from the fact that he always does as he is told. I am not saying I want him to be a pig but a little masculinity wouldn't hurt. Is it possible for a man to obey his wife too much? Am I just being stupid about all this? Why do I care about this and feel this way?...Show more

Jonelle Eligio: You do not have to get an attorney to file for you. Go to the courthouse and go see the county clerk or the family court. They will give you all the paper work. If you dec! ide to do it as a simple dissolution, if not you both will need to get ! attorneys. The simple dissolution is the easiest way. It just means that you both agree and will work everything out between the two of you. Good luck....Show more

Madie Strople: its not me, it's my parents and my dad was wondering.

Lanita Reichman: Through the family courts. Your best bet is hire an attorney. Even if you work out all the details between the two of you, having an attorney write up the legal documents could save you headaches in the future. If you can't afford an attorney, call the family court and see if they have blank documents ou can use to file.

Rona Ising: court house, do you have one down there?

Darnell Cutliff: No, not "doing" therapy, as in seeing an actual licensed therapist yet. We have decided to DO therapy. We both understand we have some behavioral problems and are both willing to admit and work it out. So far we have only been reading books and therapy forums, but that alone has helped a lot. (sorry about that misund! erstanding)

Fred Caminita: You were separated, as in, a formal separation from your marriage? or separated, as in, away on a business trip? Because it matters. This man has Issues. Honey, your husband is hyper controlling and insecure. He is not just trying to sabotage your weight; he is trying to sabotage your happiness. This is a BAD sign. And you both have issues with food. I'm thinking this does NOT sound like a healthy marriage, if he is going to keep encouraging you to do things that are not only bad for your weight but bad for your health. 70 pounds??!! and he's LYING to you? His jealousy is an issue; a huge huge toxic issue. Somebody who loves you wants what is best for you. He is acting like a version of those people who would rather kill their partners rather than have them leave. Because that's basically what the weight is doing.Honey, his insecurities are his problem. HE needs to deal with HIS problem in a healthy way. Get his rear end into co! unseling. Don't allow him to suck you in to an unhealthy place. And a! nyway, YOU don't "make" him feel insecure - HE -chooses- to feel insecure, as an unhealthy reaction to seeing a vibrant healthy attractive wife. No wonder you aren't attracted to him mentally - that is an ugly toxic demon inside of him.FWIW - I dunno if you should be thinking of the "old" food as "reward" - but as an indulgence that you'll allow yourself on a specific limited basis, X times a week and no more. Food is food - it is fuel. It is a choice as to what you put in your mouth. Also FWIW - I don't think you should be chiding each other on the subject of weight. I'd suggest counseling, honestly.

Toby Caswell: Don't look.

Tillie Wynott: court

Inge Mclaurine: It's not at all uncommon when one person in a couple gets fit for the other person to feel a bit insecure and threatened. But do NOT give in and let yourself go. You worked so hard and should be proud of yourself. Just have the will power to say thank you sweetheart but no.He will eventua! lly realize that you aren't going anywhere. He's just a bit insecure.

Marita Stadick: He is insecure and trying to make you less attractive to others. That is controlling and emotionally abusive. I would insist on marriage counseling.

Stan Conley: Take her to a cooking class. Then you guys can share the job

Galen Gowers: I agree with that other guy don't file work on your marrage.

Veta Slicker: Go to a courthouse...

Dorine Nurre: You say you are going to therapy, so this topic is something to address with your therapist...is he so insecure that he (in some way) wants you to be less attractive so others won't find you appealing (but by the same token, he won't be as attracted to you either)??? Does he fear you will cheat??? That's really the bottom line...it doesn't matter if every man on the planet drooled over you, unless you were inclined to do something about that...You're payin' for a therapist so use him/her...talk about how you feel abou! t his behavior and get him to talk about why he does it (what's behind ! it)...I was once obese and lost the weight...I know it's tough and maintaining a healthy weight is even tougher...best wishes to you and congrats on your progess so far!!...Show more

Adrian Sherlin: Go to some cooking classes with her. Both of you can sign up and learn together. It can be fun, sort of a date night but with some better cooking skills acquired along the way.

Ronnie Panas: get her to enroll in cooking classes.

Donny Bankson: Take her out to dinner at an expensive restaurant instead?

Kimberlee Bowdish: S'matter, your arms broke and you can't cook?

Aubrey Tirri: im sorry to hear u want a divorce!

Arleen Bussing: Obviously not. Fat can cause serious health concerns and you are getting right up to the age where it becomes more risky. Lose fat now and keep it off! Let your husband understand that your health is more important than his SELFISH insecurities.

Jarrod Darnall: you could try these courts Supreme Court of Virginia! 100 North Ninth Street, 5th floorRichmond, Virginia 23219(804)- 786-2251Court of Appeals of Virginia109 north eighth streetRichmond, Va 23219(804)- 371-8428...Show more

Providencia Serpe: a court

Toya Braskett: The point he becomes too obedient is the point of when her wife stops liking him and lose respect for him. It will not matter if he cleans, but the fact his wife does not have respect for him (he could clean and have respect too)The bottom line is, before you saw the facts he cleans, you already lost respect for him (but you blame he cleans - same as blaming issues like socks on the floor)Right, he is less attractive to you (you like him less) as said above.If he stops cleaning, he is not going to make himself more atractive to you. You are uncomfortable with your husband, and he become too obedient, when you did a scan-search of excuses to stop liking him after you were not finding convincent reasons....Show more

Maria Devenney: You are doing GREAT! and congratulations!Keep it up.You already know that your husband is t! he one with the insecurity issue. Do not let it stop you. Do not jeopardize your health or happiness. Also, always flirt with him, text him naughty things, show him that he is your #1 and he is on your mind and he will always come first. Try to help him understand that you only have eyes for him and you belong to him wholeheartedly and that will help soothe those insecurities.

Rodrigo Pezley: Don't file for divorce, work on your marriage!

Bell Pasco: