Kiersten Clayburn: Lol. It was the "To see him smile" bit I had trouble with! I could never see him so I lost interest.(((Olga))) - looking stunning again!
Arlen Lopiccalo: "Abstinence only" doesn't give you freedom. It closes communication.If you push abstinence only, your daughter will just feel less comfortable telling you about her sexual feelings. It is much better to just acknowledge those feelings she's having and give her the best information you can about what sex is and why it is a responsibility. Tell your daughters the pros and cons of sex, including how to be more safe if she decides to do it. Let her know that her virginity is not as important as your relationship with her. But let her know that you worry about consequences of sex and hope when she decides to have sex, she does so smartly.Give your daughter the room to make her own choices. She's going to make those choices anyway. Whether or not she includes you in those choices is up to you.I ! do agree with you that it is more important to teach her about what relationships are all about. Sex is just physical. If you do it, do it smartly. Relationships are more complicated, and that's where you can really give some good advice....Show more
Sook Hershkowitz: What is your problem? Seriously, I would really like to know. You post the same garbage day after day after day after day. You never post any question worthy of a thoughtful answer. It's all gibberish like this. What the hell is the point of posting this nonsense when you and I both know that you don't even believe what you are saying?
Antonia Mogg: Actually, 10 is an underestimate. There are at least 30,000 Christian denominations, implying 30,000 versions of Christianity. Of course, only one is true.Those who teach that we are saved by faith alone are imposing an extra-biblical doctrine on Jesus' message. The only mention of faith alone is in James 2:24: "You see that a person is justifie! d by what he does and not by faith alone." Jesus requires work! s as the practical means to faith. For example, he told Peter that if he had faith, to get out of the boat and walk on the water, a work. The idea that we can reject all of Jesus teachings that require us to actually do something--get baptized, repent of sins, adopt God's morality, helping the least of Jesus' brothers, eating the bread of life, and enduring to the end--shows a complete lack of faith.Cheers,Bruce...Show more
Alden Sabio: I grew up in a church, and when I was about 8, I began to see that the whole mish-mash was nothing but ooga-booga...
Gilberto Cratin: Christians: Were you raised with Apollo and then rejected him or were you never given the opportunity to know him?Because, to know him is to LOVE him and I do. ....and Poseidon and Zeus and Ra and Thor, for that matter....Show more
Bettye Arre: bull fightingnow can someone explain to me how that got to be a category?
Clifford Gombos: Politics and Government, read the arguments for/again! st all respective candidatesor Business & Finance, read about people who make really bad choices, like Jerry Springer without the chairs flying & Steve refereeing....Show more
Ignacio Imbier: I have not heard of ten versions of christianity, but there is only one bible which has all a person needs to be right with God, as he intended, or else there would be other information. Works appear in a believer's life because of their faith, they can't help but be motivated to show fruit of the spirit when they truly feel God's role in the world. For example, the mind who comprehends the sacrifice of Jesus on the cross cannot help but be moved to be thankful and humble, helping others and doing good....Show more
Mack Ukich: I have not rejected god, I do not believe in any god. You can't reject what you don't believe exists. I had religion pumped into me for 11 years at school. The trouble is that religions and gods are very fragile and if you sincerely question them they! crumble to dust.
Jene Kostyla: I had a talk with my teen daughte! r recently about a boy at school that she is friends with. He seems to like her (as much as a 17yr old boy can 'like' given his hormones) and has taken to calling her 'baby' in an affectionate kind of way. They are planning on going to prom together. My daughter says she likes him but she is not attracted to him. Her father's advice is to cut the boy off because its not 'fair' to him to lead him on. I'd say this was 'reasonable' advice IF sex is the obvious finishline but can you see how crippling that idea can be to a person's social development? To tell a teen, dont be friends because you dont want to hurt his feelings when you wont have sex with him. If you REMOVE the 'sex expectation', it opens up the possibility to actually GET TO KNOW the person before committing your mind and/or body to them. Choosing abstinence gives you that 'freedom'. The benefits of which are: less teen pregnancy, divorce, spousal abuse, abortion, etc. Your thoughts?...Show more
Libby B! erkovitch: sounds good i guess....but i don't see how you're going to go about removing the expectation. the whole of our culture would need rewriting, and that would take a lot of time and effort. i personally have nothing against removing the expectation, and know other teens who think the same, but alas we are but a minority. as far as we can see, anyway.
Sammy Kar: I heard about him, laughed, and carried on with my life.Unfortunately I soon learned christians weren't IRL trolls, but were completely serious.
Hal Palowoda: there is a normal development of sexuality that starts off as wanting relations with everybody, to wanting realtions with only one person, to having realtions with not just anybody but one particular person whom you want to marry. Shyness (or lack of communication) can actually protect kids during their vulnerable years.
Sabra Roers: If she doesn't like him "that way" then chances are pretty high that sex would be out of the question a! nyway.I'd advise her to not use him. If she likes him, but just not "th! at way" then going to the prom together and hanging out together seems perfectly alright. If she doesn't like him and is really only using him, then that would be very wrong, I agree.P.S. Don't underestimate teen's feelings: I went through the whole falling-in-love thing that included being unable to eat, constantly thinking of each other, caring for the other and expressing it in cooking, supporting them through hard times, being there and also being out of the way, going to family gatherings without snogging in public, sharing a bed AND being comfortable with that - and not having sex, because we weren't ready for that, albeit we discussed it. And I went through it at age 15, and it hurt for years after it was over, although there was no bitterness, only honest interest in that the other may find a better person than ourselves. Don't underestimate what young teenagers can feel!...Show more
Branden Round: Abstinence is definitely the best way. I was abstinent until ! I was over 22 and it is the only 100% effective against pregnancy and STD's. However, teens should be educated if something does happen. The first time should be special for everyone and if she gives it away to this boy, she'll probably regret it later when she meets the right person for her. I'm glad I waited for the right person to come along, but I had the other facts too.
Becky Mosena: haha singles and dating cause all of the 5th graders ask -- if they are really in love ... because we held hands the other day (type of questions) Sometimes its depressing because they'll be a 15 yr old asking if she's pregnant, and that's just not cool
Robin Weelborg: I was just tired of every religious person telling me do this or go to hell.The place of torture and fire.I got sick of it and came through a phase where if I thought I disbelieved in "God" then lightning would hit me.Im fine now and an atheist. :)...Show more
Curtis Josef: None, this is it man.
Luke! Creitz: That there are TEN versions of Christianity, and that if one i! s caught by Jesus on the lowest one- their Salvation is voided, and they are counted with Unbelievers?That THIS is the version of Christianity that is causing all the trouble?That this would consist of accepting Jesus' Words, but not walking with him (Amos 3:3), which counts as being against him (Matt. 12:30)?Could not people who expect to be Resurrected, and Believe that FAITH without WORKS will save them fall into this category?...Show more
Solomon Belback: Polls & Surveys.I believe R&S should be merged into Mythology and Folklore.
Ricardo Rozelle: Science and Math and History.There's actual content there. Terrifying, amirite?
Everette Rovinsky: I'd say the Y!A main page. I just refresh until I see a question to answer, regardless of category.
Justin Casten: @ Zaphod...email me your questions and concerns and I'll honestly respond.
Patrica Loertscher: You don't have to reject god to be an atheist.
Clifford Riggleman: I was raised with ! it, then when I became conscious I asked for evidence, none was given so I realised it was bogus crap.
Joey Mekeel: Relationships.
Kristina Brockwell: I have known about a fictional deity called god all my life but don't buy into the all powerful trash that is supposed to be his crowning glory. If it is so powerful, why does so much evil exist in the world? Satan is a crock also. Men are evil because they can be.
Toby Caswell: (((Aggy))) Back Atcha Sweetie
Serena Doak: The fact of the matter is, despite any religious conviction, human life is structured and programmed to reproduce as early as thirteen years old. That's why the hormones are there in the first place. As human beings, we peak in sexual fitness during the teenage years and early twenties. So abstinence is an artificial construct that your daughter will decide to follow or not in individual situations.In my opinion, she should get to know him and if he makes a move or asks her out (e.g. ! "dating"), she should make clear what HER morals are. But they might be! different from yours. If there is a seventeen-year-old young man interested in her, chances are she is old enough to have her own views regarding sex and relationships.Something my mother taught me is that you can't always control your children. You have to teach them what you believe is right, then allow them to explore their own ideas and decisions with knowledge of protection against harmful persons and infections. Usually the kids come out alright with that kind of upbringing. Choosing abstinence might lend some freedom, but forcing it down your kid's throat gives her a sour attitude.Teach her to be safe. That is far more important than teaching her what to believe, which she will probably change her mind about anyway. And don't underestimate her. I feel like you look down on teenagers too much and don't give them enough credit. Look into what they can accomplish, this article for instance....Show more
Simona Bulwinkle: Y- that is exactly what I am doing, 'teachi! ng' her. She lives with her father so she is hardly under my thumb-but she comes to me to ask what I think. I would argue that I think far higher of teens in general (my daughter especially) than to reduce her to a cycle of hormones that is 'just going to do it' like some other responders said. If you dont teach them anything they surely will. I draw the religious aspect because there was nothing 'solid' in my own atheist upbringing that detered me from sex. I viewed it as merely an action and that 'perspective' has haunted me for years; manifesting in a lack of respect for my own body, life in general, and an inability to have whole relationships without rushing into sex which, introduced too early is a problem even for adults....Show more
Antwan Schrum: Lol, i all started interior the religion&spirituality section too and have been given bored of it. Its the same difficulty persistently with too a lot of human beings and through rapid turn over. I like it right h! ere nonetheless of previous due the random and senseless bashing of the! two gender has gotten tedious and boring. in case you stumble on a extra applicable section, please, do share. interior the mean on the same time as, i'm hoping the regulars of GWS will typhoon the gates and take decrease back the debate board....Show more
Kizzy Hett: I agree with you, not your husband.Of course I am raising my daughter to make her own choices, as I'm sure are you. But that being said, we have had many conversations about how relationships at this age have the same outcome, which is breaking up eventually. So I advise her to not do anything that she would regret doing after she breaks up. She wisely chooses her virginity.The boy does not need to think that SEX is his ultimate goal, but rather, getting to know your daughter and having fun spending time together. Likewise, for your daughter. If she likes him as a friend, that is all she needs to commit to, and doesn't need to "cut the boy off" from her friendship.If I were there, I'd "slap the foo! l" out of your husband!! LOL...Show more
Lissette Semon: Politics and military can be entertaining, though I don't post there. (Some of those neocons and gun-nuts make the fundies seem sane....naw, fundies are still wackier) I hang out in Alternative Medicine sometimes too. There's some seriously deluded new agers hang out there peddling magic of a different kind.You're right though..the same old arguments and rants get boring...I'm just back from a 6 month break....Show more
Keneth Mailhot: My daughter's father and I were both sexually active teens who should have waited before getting involved. I love my daughter of course but I want her to make smarter relational choices than we did. No one was telling me 'wait and really get to know the person'.
Anton Waln: Science and Math.They actually ask questions there and read the answers.
Barrett Zheng: Because, to know Him is to LOVE Him and I do.
Jon Bergmeier: I would that them be friends but en! courage your daughter to remind the boy that she does not want to do an! ything like that yet
Melina Minneweather: Jim, I think its very obvious that what is visually attractive to us as children may not be good for us and the people that seemed kind of 'corny' at first glance could have turned out to be the great guy. Im telling her to not rule the boy out at first 'glance'. She hardly knows the boy. Who knows, once she gets to know him her feelings may change. She has never had a boyfriend by the way and she is a senior in high school.
Maurice Breuning: go to Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender section. you get to see it all! and many who are here in R&S are over there trying to save us.so, whether you love us or hate us you'll have some fun!
Lynn Hollars: Your husband is correct, and you aren't.Your daughter "is not attracted to him." And so you move into ideas of sex, and abstinence and "freedoms."No matter how long your daughter hangs with Mr. 17 yr-old, and 'gets to know him." Will she want to date him for the next fou! r years, or perhaps marry him? No?Then your husband is correct.It's not all about sex . . . as much as you seem to image. No one, not 17, 27, or 47, wants to date someone who isn't 'attracted' to them.Why is your daughter going to the prom with him, anyway?...Show more
Pearlie Medora: Love/Light/God/All That Is/Source is the "creative" principle of the universe (and beyond). Only Love has the potential within It to expand and bring into being...or not, when It rests in Itself as Itself. Gerald Jampolsky wrote a book sometime in the '70s titled Love Is Letting Go of Fear...and this says it all, for anything that is not Love is based on fear/separation. We are made in the image (imagination) of God/Source and contain all Its attributes...and are, therefore, perfect, without blemish/sin. We, however, in our dream of separation from Source have forgotten that we, too, are Love...and only Love. Love, then, is always the answer in spite of the question (any questioning) tha! t is ultimately born of fear/forgetfulness. If we remembered, we would ! have no need to question. Only Love is... i am Sirius...Show more
Stanton Degregorio: Non- I disagree. It blocks communication if I shove abstinence down her throat sure. But she comes to me because I dont do that. Her father is saying 'limit the friendship' and Im saying she doesnt have to. She can be FREE to get to know that person if you take this sex expecation off the table.
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